If you’re finding out about things like that on your wedding night… well, that’s a choice.
Ideally, before you commit to spending the rest of your life with someone, you want to make sure you’re compatible. That includes sex. If the two people want different things and can’t fulfil each others’ desires or needs - sex or otherwise - that’s going to be a problem.
So none of that on your wedding night should be a surprise.
and frankly, speaking as someone who got married… we were really too tired to do anything anyway. We did for the sake of having done it, but it wasn’t a huge sexy thing. We had a bit of fun and took a damn nap. heh. (But we also weren’t very rich, so we’d done decorations and ‘catered’ our wedding, so we were both tired anyway, but it was still a nice day)
I may well ſupport the uſe of archaic characters, but I ſtill cannot help reading thoſe as “pee steam” and “piss type”. :)